New mom Blake Lively isn’t fixated on “having it all.”

“Most of the things I do are all-consuming, but somehow I find a way to do it all. It’s not having it all; it’s about doing it all,” Lively told Allure magazine, before delving into the complexities of the sentiment: “But it’s dangerous to dilute that to a catchphrase. Having it all could be having a happy, healthy family, and you could be a mom who stays at home, and that is the most admirable thing you could do. Or it could be having a profession that you really believe in, and not having a family, and doing what fulfills you. If it’s not a part of a conversation with someone face-to-face, those bites are why women tear each other apart or why the media will tear people apart.”

The 27-year-old is on the cover of the May 2015 issue of Allure. It is her first magazine spread since welcoming daughter James with husband Ryan Reynolds in December. The former “Gossip Girl” star announced her pregnancy on her website, Preserve, in October with a simple photo taken by her brother, showing the actress holding her growing belly.

That decision was a personal one.

“That was my way of owning that moment. I can’t be someone like Beyoncé …,” Lively said, referencing Bey’s onstage pregnancy announcement at the VMAs in 2011. “But it was important for us,” she continued, “It was a struggle, because we want to keep our privacy, but we also don’t want our lives to be exploited by other people. So we did it simply; it was a quiet way, an elegant way.”

For more with Blake Lively, head over to Allure.com or pick up the new issue on newsstands April 21.

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